Weekend Links 9.29.17

Intriguing explorations by extrapolating headlines.

Health and Well-being

Having a million dollar baby myself, I think a single-payer system is worth discussing.

Love this song list. We all could use a Momento Mori from time to time. I include this in well-being because we can better live our lives when we cherish the moments and choose wisely what we do, as death reminds us to do.

Our individual interests require balance with our marriage/relationships if they are not to take away from the most important things. The Gottman’s make their recommendations. ““Something that says, ‘I am here for you, I love you, I’m not rejecting you, I just need some quiet time,’” she explained. “By acknowledging the other before you retreat to your space, instead of signaling that the space is a place of exile, you’re actually saying ‘Hey, I love you so much that I need to recharge so I can give my best self to you and really listen.’”

“Self-care is a 10 billion dollar industry.” We should be keenly aware of what current trends are made popular by organizations/businesses that profit from them. This post is an excellent take on the concept of self-care and its purpose. For further reading on that.

We’ll include mental well-being, too. Add this free online course on the early middle ages to the list of courses I want to take but cannot because the noise gets elevated whenever I turn on the audio.


Church and Culture

I like to see trend-setters quit a break while they’re ahead. It keeps their product strong rather than wait for it to fizzle out. Some shows should end sooner than later. Here, Chip and Joanna Gaines #5 will be their last season of Fixer Upper.

We need innovation like this: recycling plastic to make clothing.

4 Ways to Avoid Becoming a Bitter Catholic. Parishes are made of people. People are fallen. We fall to, sometimes in response to others fallenness. We can choose how we react, even in the worst of circumstances.

I like the clarity and charity with which Fr. Longenecker relates his observations of Pope Francis and the issues on the table in the Catholic Church. Likewise, George Weigel. Getting with the times does not mean compromising moral truth.

Check out this project by Catholic Creatives.


Family and Education

There is so much wisdom in this article by Dr. John Cuddleback on presence. It is a great example of how the narrative of what is “traditional” often misses the mark. It is not history’s great tradition that men should be absent from home 50 hours a day and then be waited on by their demure wives. It is the tradition to work at or near home and have significant work to be done in the home, with close proximity, often involving children. In You Learn by Living, Eleanor Roosevelt makes the point that children need to be useful. When they are needed and useful, they earn respect from their parents they could not otherwise have.

Thoroughly enjoyed this read on a big family living in a small house and the blessings thereof.

One man’s honest reflection on manhood, or the lack thereof.

One of my first classes at the University of St. Thomas was Philosophy 101 taught by a man who loved it and believed in it. There I learned the purpose of a liberal arts education. Here a Professor Joseph Clair discusses Augustine’s approach to education and how we need it today.Technology changes the atmosphere. Not every teacher can teach in it. Not every student will excel in it. The point is, we are not backward for wanting some technology-free environments.


Ready for fall? We are! (No pumpkins for sale this year, I’m afraid).

Weekend Links

Straightforward advice for relationships and marriage. Behold, the Four Horsemen of the Apocolypse and how to replace them.

This article, sent to me by fellow blogger and friend, MamaCodes, reinforced the warning regarding social media use and distracted thinking/mental clutter.

As an update, I started checking Facebook only once a day. I really only use Pinterest for specific ideas and do not use other platforms. It has gone well. I can already see how Facebook produces a lot of mental noise and it feels better not checking it throughout the day. I think I have to stay connected through email though.

This review of a new comedy show about motherhood highlights the issues I addressed in A Comedienne’s Way of being in the World. The world of professional comedy is inhospitable for a theoretically feminine style of humor, thus the descent into vulgarity.

News to me. Melatonin can disrupt hormones related to fertility. Melatonin was recommended to me to aid sleep, because of stress. After waking suddenly several hours after taking it and my thoughts racing just as fast as before, I thought I would love to resolve the underlying issue (rather than the immediate issue).

People are pretty upset about this interview. Better to skip the sound bytes and interpretations and read the transcript for yourself.

I think he speaks fairly clearly here, although I think it would have been better had he defined “feminized” and “manly.” He almost defines “manly” but leaves “feminized” undefined. If he says men perceived the mass as “feminized” and the only near definition is: the priest is the only man on the altar, the rest of the people are women, then the reader is left to think feminized means women are present. If women are present and the men want no part, why is that? Flesh it out. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, I have no idea what he means by feminized.

Additionally I really really hate when people try to make marketing words like “emangelization” or “mom-preneur” to try to capture a statement “evangelizing men”/”mothers who are also entrepreneurs.” N. M. Gwynne points out that this language has been entrusted to us, not just to do what we want with it, but to respect its usage and preserve it for the future. This crap doesn’t fly.

This more reflective piece by Emily P. Freeman was the perfect post for me to read today. A new friend asked me about Peter if things will change in the future. I told her, “I tell myself they won’t.” She accepted my answer and the conversation was distracted before we could talk about the actual possibilities. “We may be waiting for something and moving toward something that may never come to be, even while we hope.” I live in a world of this awareness…” moving toward something that may never come to be.”

This week, I practicing being rather than doing. Taking a break from the memoir, I wrote some shorter pieces for submission. There is still room for improvement in find time in the daily schedule to write in order to fulfill my commitments.

My husband and I celebrated 8 years together by being apart. It was actually the first celebration missed due to hospitalization since this all started and I missed Regina’s birthday. Fortunately, my birthday plans directly involve San Francisco.

I was crestfallen to discover I left one of Peter’s homemade, labor-intensive vests in San Francisco and it was pitched. No one’s fault but my own. It is awful to think of all that work in the garbage. Especially since I never wanted to make them again!

I ordered a five-year journal because of I see now how helpful it is to record the mundane events along with the big events. A new friend and I spent time together, saw our children got on well together and have many, many things in common.

This week I learned the big vent in the house sucks air in and pushes it through to the little vents for air conditioning. That is why you need a filter. If you do not have a filter, the thing stops working. I am glad I did not learn the lesson by personal experience.

What did you learn this week?